A Disease
A DISEASE (dedicated to the memory of Dr. Deborah Gorham) “ At the time, people kept telling me, ‘If you put your little boy in day care, he’ll catch a disease! ’” said the guest speaker to the women at the community center. In an adjoining room, for the duration of the half-hour talk, a sitter supervised their children at play. “ But he was fine, stayed healthy and learned social skills that have served him well.” I was newly married, new to the city where my husband worked. Listening, I harboured a germ of hope. to become like this historian with the glossy dark hair, confident air, and passion for her work. I was stunned by the social expectations that marriage had brought down on me. Everyone but my husband wanted me to find a job, buy a house with a backyard and have babies - A.S.A.P.! STAT! Any other path was pathological. Were wedded bliss and a vocation incompatible? Were my dreams a disease? Forty years later, the historian spoke to my...